Now, this is an opinion. Others do not need to agree with it, but it’s a perspective that may help others to understand a bit better and form their own opinions on the matter.
Sexual Drive: This is the natural body process that urges us to mate. It’s what makes some teenage boys get boners while they’re just thinking about their math homework and nothing really all too saucy. It’s what makes some women get hornier in the weeks leading up to their period. This is an involuntary bodily process that is initiated by the body’s natural processes.
Sexual Desire: This is when you see, hear, smell, touch, think of an object of desire and it activates your sexual drive. This may be when someone touches your thigh or someone whispering your ear, or when you’re flipping through the pages of a Playboy issue, it could be when you’re having a conversation with someone and you notice how they bite their lip, or there’s something about their voice that drives you crazy. You desire to experience it sexually.
(Note: Attraction and sexual attraction are not the same either. You can appreciate that someone looks good, you can prefer one set of features over another just as you might prefer Van Gogh’s paintings over Monet’s or vice versa. Just because you have a preference for one person’s body of work over another’s doesn’t mean you want to lay that canvas down and do things that would make the artist roll over in their grave.)
Many asexuals feel no sexual drive whatsoever. Many asexuals feel sexual drive on a sliding scale of intensity, this means that some may feel horny on occasion and some may even be horny for a good majority of the time. Some people experience sexual desire but lack the sexual drive to initiate (if you think I’m lying to you, the most obvious example would be the existence of Viagra which is for the sole purpose of turning on your sex drive when you can’t but you really, really want it). Some people experience both. There are people who feel them in varying degrees on either side and there are people who feel both sides to the same approximate amount and that’s all okay.
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